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This morning I read about the achievements of a young female poet in a local daily. Felt like appreciating her for what she has achieved so far. I typed out a one-page email and sent her. I don't think that even she read all that. She casually replied me as if she was writing from heaven and I standing down on the earth waiting to receive her commands. After reading her reply I understood that she does not deserve my appreciation.
This is the problem with the modern girls. If somebody proactively writes to them, they consider the latter an inferior creature to them. They reply in quite indecent and egoistic manner. I regretted my sending such a warm and affectionate email to her after reading her mechanical email with no spirit or value of any standards.
We can't assess the mentality or character of another person reading or hearing about their achievements. A great actor might be an idiot in his real life and you come to know about it only when you contact him in quite ordinary manner. This girl proved to be so in my case. She killed my drive to appreciate others also on other occasions because a bad girl disturbs the basic psyche of a good boy. Please follow the following instructions to gain and retain new friends and well-wishers:
1. A person proactively appreciating you is not inferior to you. He or she is voluntarily giving you a chance to express your real nature to him or her for the first time. You need not please him or her with your reaction. Just see that you are not disturbing or hurting him or her. It matters.
2. There are millions of people in this world and very few are really interested in you for whatever you represent internally or externally. Learn to respect and love those that do the same toward you voluntarily. You are not greater than many in this world.
3. A real artist is very sensitive in heart and soul though he or she apprears differently outside for many reasons. Learn to behave softly with any good artist. A good artist is one that allows you to expose your real self even if he or she is hurt in the process.
4. Modernity must be in your thoughts and actions in understanding and serving others but not in replying in a stupid manner when somebody that loves you does something worthy. You need to know how to react perfectly toward those that love you unconditionally. Even if you don't feel real love for them, just act for a while. It matters to the other party.
5. You should not try to show off too much before an intellectual or dreamer. His silence toward what you are doing does not mean his helplessness. It could be his pity for you understanding you from his perspective what you really possess and deserve.
6. In human relationships, science and reasoning seldom work wonders. Love, compassion and drive to learn more about the other matter more. Don't lose your admirers due to your stupidity or ego. Once lost, no recovery. It shows your foolishness. Pity yourself first, not the other.
7. Our life can be beautiful and happy when we explore new opportunities and optimally utilize golden opportunities that come our way without our effort. If you miss them, you turn a loser. Others can't fill those gaps for you. You must cure your diseases because others have no time to do it for you.
8. Avoid over-confidence about your abilities. Great people always allow you to do your bit first so that they can assess what you are in reality. They use that insight to keep off from you because they have better alternatives to attend. You are the loser here. If you cover your eyes with a veil when there is sun in the sky, sun does not feel anything for you but it is you that welcome darkness on your own. What you do keeps you where you deserve to be!
