Yesterday a high school friend of my wife Srijana came to our abode in Vanasthalipuram along with her four-month baby boy and her husband on a bike around 12:30 PM IST. They did not inform us about it beforehand.
I want absolute silence when editing the content of my personal diaries on my computer at home because I infuse additionally required creativity and correct grammar into those sentences when editing it because it facilitates readers to understand it better when they are reading it in future. Sounds from my familiar creatures and nearby places disturb my level of concentration and focus on my creative work every day but somehow I try to manage it and do not allow those sounds to disturb the quality of editing I do.
The presence of these creatures compelled me to stop my editing work after my lunch. I did not like it at all. Sometimes our sense of courtesy for the folks before us compels us to do some things for them, even though we don't like it personally or professionally. I could not ask them to get out and allow me to attend my editing work as planned earlier by me.
Srijana prepared lunch for them hurriedly. I had to go to our nearby Raithu Bazar yesterday evening and so there were no onions or vegetables in the house when they came here in the afternoon. She rushed to a nearby shop and bought a few available items to somehow manage homemade lunch for them. I felt disgusted at it.
I like and serve Srijana like a bonded laborer when things happen according to our respective plans. In case, I am involved in highly important work for me, mostly related to my writing and editing facets of work, I don't mind Srijana going to places alone to get or do something. Then I treat her as an ordinary human being who does not know how to understand an intellectual and dreamer and get things done by him according to his schedule of pressing tasks. It is her fate. I can't avoid it. I curse her internally or externally at times in such occasions because then she does what I don't like personally as her loving and possessive Indian husband.
Yesterday I left Srijana to go to a clinic along with Anand and also to go and buy things alone at a retail shop near our abode of residence. The arrival of these blokes made it intense. I thought, "It is her fate".
I went to Rajiv Gandhi Park along with these blokes to satisfy their nonsensical interests without minding the intensity of work I am carrying out.
I did not like the attitude of the husband of this girl because I detected 'Evil Attraction' in him toward Srijana in his communication with us and indirect proposals. I would explain you this below:
Those possessing this characteristic in their character or only toward a particular creature seem to have the following facets of behavior:
1. They propose future ways of further interaction without consulting others or minding their willingness for it.
2. They buy valuable gifts for them.
3. They want to meet them again and again somehow and they propose ideas for it indirectly.
4. They don't think how the relatives of the other creature feel when proposing ideas of enjoyment to them with them.
5. They like meeting their interested ones alone, rather than with their close associates of life or profession.
6. They talk everything possible to highlight the greatness of their character, profession or individuality to somehow impress their favorite creature and encourage him or her to become their close friends fast or slowly. They love them internally but express it indirectly in their presence.
7. They lack common sense, rational thinking and ethical codes of behavior in their attempts to attract others, essentially creatures of opposite gender with innocence and honesty as their only assets.
8. They don't say anything directly in terms of reasons they propose facilitating or necessitating their further or frequent interactions with those they love to spend with but indirect ideas and plans.
I found these qualities in this guy.
He felt happy when Srijana said that she would come to their abode along with Anand soon. An Indian gentleman should perhaps say, "Come with your husband comfortably and safely when he too has time for it. It is not good coming along with your little son in these days of disorders and unrest in the cities".
When we went to the park, he bought one more ice cream than necessary for us folks available there. He told Srijana to have it because he bought all those ice creams for us only to give one to Srijana. It is like booking an entire train for many folks when one actually wants to satisfy one of them out of his or her love for her or him.
Then, when I told him that we would come to their abode sometime after Deepavali, after completing my highly important editing work, he casually said, "Come for Sankranti then. We can celebrate it better". His real thought behind this revealed dialogue is “I know that you would stop her from coming on her own with your son. You have disturbed my happiness proposing this nasty idea. It's ok. I can't avoid you in this case".
Then, he proposed the idea of going to Ramoji Film City sometime soon when I told him that we did not go there till now. His actual intention is to enjoy the presence of Srijana there bearing with me on the way because I am her husband.
Girls should be careful with such guys. Their evil attraction for you, which looks negligible, acceptable or manageable initially, might take bad turns later. You will be victimized then. Others simply pity you!
I would send Srijana alone even to America if I find a fellow good according to my rough assessment about his character.
I would send Srijana to any part of this world, for any length of time, along with my great friends like Deepthi, Swagata and Saakshi because I admire them for their characters. I don't admire cheats and liars in any field if they give me a chance to assess them.
I admired many girls in the past but I did not run after them like an indecent and unethical dog but like a sensitive and innocent guy who minds and respects the sensitivities, sensibilities, fears and choices of others.
I still admire many girls and women because it is not a bad thing. Getting married does not mean distancing all our friends, relatives and well-wishers but attending them in a way that does not disturb the interests, fears and priorities of our life partner, if he or she is essentially a good creature according to your assessment.
I enjoy the admiration of a poor and unfamiliar girl on road for a few seconds than the love of my wife for months because admiration is a great feeling and notion in human hearts. It is stately in expression, divine in feeling and ideal in dissemination.
I am an Indian. So, I expect others to understand and practice Indian standards while talking and behaving with my wife, not with me. I can handle people better than Srijana because my work involves many thoughts about human psychology and behavior. I can handle any number of nuts or idealists but Srijana cannot because her awareness about this world is very little.
We must know how to respect others when we love them. We must not hesitate to leave anybody if we find him or her very dangerous internally. A thief or killer is better than a wrong person who thinks badly about you because you don't know when he or she attacks you. Be happy with known risks but very careful with hidden dangers around you.
Girls and women are more vulnerable creatures in nations like India where governments are very weak and corrupt and people are very cunning and deceptive. Srijana is also one of such vulnerable Indians. I am not as vulnerable as Srijana. I can tackle rogues of any nature and strength, provided they give me a chance to make them understand me.
I can easily scan the real character of a creature if I spend with them for a few hours or days. I did not find this fellow good.
Girls should be careful with such blokes. Be admired by a million good boys but avoid even one bad guy, whose hidden character you can interpret from your common sense and rationality, simply for your sake or those you love for some reason.